Most of us know what it is like to look for love in all the wrong places. We are only human: we tend to want what we want, when we want it, and sometimes have trouble keeping perspective. Do I sound bitter? Since finding my one True Love Jiu-Jitsu , my perspective is clearer than it has ever been. The black eyes, ripped out hair, cut skin and spider-guard knuckles are my new boyfriends, and I plan to keep them around indefinitely.